July 22, 2011

Lazy Day in Bani Gala

Not much luck with our travel plans in Pakistan at the moment: The trip to Shanduur in the North to the oldest Polo Festival, which apparently was invented there and then refined by a British named Polo in the 19th century had to be canceled because of security concerns. Karachi with its killings of more than one hundred people within three days does not seem to be the perfect vacation spot either.



An invitation to spend a day with an incredibly charming journalist and her equally successful friend at her beautiful country estate in Bani Gala (a settlement on the Western bank of Rawal Lake) brings a welcomed change to the hot streets of Islamabad - and an interesting conversation about life of single women in Pakistan. No desire to get married and both in their forties, they find it difficult to be in a relationship with a man without legal status. The Pakistani society does not accept that. 
Even today, most of the marriages are arranged by the parents, preferably within the larger family (more than 60% and 80% of them between first cousins) and it appears to be accepted across all social groups. Marriage is seen more as a union of two families rather than simply between two individuals.
One wonders though about the many wonderful poetic tales, many dating back to ancient times, speaking of tragic love, broken hearts and chosen death over promised marriages...
But due to their age and career achievements, these two women I spend the day with in Bani Gala have an accepted position in society and feel happy not having to depend on a man. Being financially independent, living in the city and being part of the elite of the society, they enjoy a wide range of freedom, although not quite comparable to women in Western societies. The family and relatives will also set some limits. These ties are very powerful and most single women live with their relatives - luckily, families are very big, so there is no shortage of relatives to live with. The closely knitted and large family net is considered a blessing and the limits it sets to ones personal life are generally accepted. Kinship is the most important force in the Pakistani society and it is also reflected in the political system of the country.
The way of a woman's life varies dramatically,  depending on where she lives, on religion, social and economical standing, education and knowledge.  
Easy availability of staff (cook, housekeeper, babysitter, driver, gardener), makes it possible for women to pursue a career and have a family at the same time, raising often three or more children.

Hina Rabbani Khar was sworn in as the new Foreign Minister of Pakistan this week. At the age of 34 she is not only the youngest but also the first woman to hold this position. She is articulate and well educated and holds a postgraduate degree from the University of Massachussetts. She followed in the footsteps of her father, who had to abandon his political career when in 2002 a new law required election candidates to hold a college degree, which he did not have. Her family's political influence in the area, her father being a big landowner in Punjab province, helped or probably enabled her fast raise to political power. The influence and power of some families is broadly accepted. She is also considered and promoted as a fresh look, young and photogenic as she is, as a softer image of Pakistan abroad. The elements of her political career are very typical for the country. 



Heading back to Islamabad I pass through the village and discover some useful places.
Should you run out of time, patience or ideas, here is the perfect caterer to contact: "Service of Gulam Abbassy - offering Punjabi meals or any kind of food, to be ordered for special occasions! If you want to have other kind of arrangements, like music or meetings, it can be organized as well. Telephone number 0092 344 664 37 73."
Waiting for a cooler hour of the day to submit orders might be advisable!




The opening of a new pool billiard room brings new pleasures for passing the time - for men only, but after my Pakistani friend kindly asked, we are allowed to enter for a moment and even take a picture. The heat allows limited activities only and this is a perfect way of spending time pleasurably. Men seem to have a very playful side - on the way home I pass a playground in full action with no child, but with many happy men on the swings and rocking horses!



Unfortunately there is no more time for taking the measures for a dress made on the spot by the local tailor - next time...



I am leaving Pakistan for a longer summer break and will be back with new posts in September - have a wonderful summer!

July 8, 2011

Starving Buddha In Peshawar

As my own freedom of movement is rather limited, I have become an increasingly grateful "personne accompagnante" in the true sense of the word - taking advantage of official and professional visits  that offer me the required protection. Eager to see whatever is possible in this country and happy to be able to do so under the current circumstances.

A visit to the Governor of Khyber Pakhtunkhwa (formerly called "North West Frontier Province") in Peshawar allows me one of these trips, that otherwise would be impossible.
Entering the city by car from Islamabad, some interesting shops frame the roadside - as unusual as it seems to me, the sight of stores that sell arms and explosives, does not seem any more special to the locals than the car supplies warehouse or household utilities shop on the same street.




The tight Hotel's security measures that include screening of all luggage 100 yards away from the Hotel entrance seem perfectly logical to me, realizing only then how one gets used to the strangest circumstances.

Of course, I don't get permission to visit the old town - after being tempted by narratives how wonderful the market is, oldest city of skilled copper and silversmiths, a trading center of semi precious stones, emerald mines in the region,...  No, I head to the tiny Hotel shop instead, that, I am told, is brand new and absolutely worth a visit!
A look at the bookshelves offers an interesting choice - no books about the beauties of the city or nature of this area, hiking trails, museums or  landmarks. Not even toothbrush or shampoo. No - books of totally different topics:



Still, the young shopkeeper, who offers to bring anything from his father's main shop to the Hotel, really anything that I would be interested in, has a beautiful fertility figure among his small collection of beads. That's it, nothing else. Needless to say that I opened my purse without hesitation to buy it - broken and repaired with non matching parts of another figure, but surprisingly touching in its frailty and expression!

The sight of a lovely swimming pool in the middle of the patio lets me regret that I forgot my bathing suit - for a moment, only until I realize it would be of little use. Unless I had a burkini (I leave it to your imagination what this dress for swimming purposes looks like). No sight of men in bathing suits - i.e. knickerbockers - either.

The Peshawar Museum -  the former British Officer's Ball house -  has a unique collection of Gandhara figures and reliefs from various sights within Pakistan's ancient Peshawar valley in today's Khyber Pakhtunkhwa province. Gandhara - a civilisation under many different rulers (Alexander the Great one of them) from the 6th cent. BC to the year 1000 AC, Buddhism the main religion at the time.
Walking slowly with the curator of the museum through the first floor the story of Buddha's life unfolds, hammered in stone, until we reach the fasting Buddha. To overcome the cycle of birth and rebirth was his endeavor that he  tried to achieve by fasting over six years with nothing more than a single sesame seed or grain of rice per day as food. This sculpture survived in three pieces, but the serenity of the face, his eyes recessed and hollow, the veins subtly carved on the front, the ribcage barely covered by skin only, reminds strangely of figures of Christ dying on the cross dating back to the same period in churches and cathedrals throughout Europe.






Luckily, the enlightenment came, that ultimate wisdom can not be achieved by denying life and so Buddha ended his fasting at the last moment and continued his life journey.
 The museum, empty but for the staff, a Pakistani family and a handful of students, used to be one of the highlights for tourists. Now it is sadly silent and the curator tells us that they exchanged most of the light bulbs for our visit, as poor quality of the bulbs, the changing current of electricity and load shedding breaks them too easily and lets darkness fall into the showcases.

During dinner we get the news about another bomb blast with casualties - luckily not too close to our place.
Returning to Islamabad the next evening we learn about the abduction of a Swiss couple traveling through Baluchistan, heading towards Quetta. We will only know once they are hopefully free again, what made them choose this dangerous itinerary.

Hopefully more cheerful news to follow - for now I am just gliding in the warm water of the pool behind the white marble wall and a Lassi Drink - salty or sweet -  is waiting for me...